Your Student Life: You’re Not Alone in Feeling Lonely

September 30, 2025

Loneliness in college can feel especially ironic. You’re surrounded by people—lecture halls full of students, dining halls buzzing with conversation and social media feeds packed with weekend highlights. Yet, despite all that, many students feel isolated. In fact, a survey cited by Psychology Today found that 64.7% of U.S. college students reported feeling lonely. That’s a powerful reminder: if you’re feeling disconnected, you’re far from alone.

Building meaningful social connections takes time, and it doesn’t always come naturally. But there are small, intentional steps you can take to start building a sense of belonging. Here are a few ideas to help you get started:

Lean Into Your Interests—Even the Niche Ones
Whether you’re into video games, board games, or tabletop role-playing, there’s likely a student org or community that shares your passion. “Nerd culture” and “geek culture” spaces are often some of the most welcoming and inclusive places to meet people who get you.

Be Your Authentic Self
When meeting someone new, try to show up as your real self. Sharing your true interests and personality helps you figure out early on if you’re compatible. And if you’re not? That’s okay—nobody clicks with everyone. Real friendships are built on authenticity, not performance.

Balance Familiarity and Diversity
Spending time with people who share your background or interests can feel comforting and validating. But don’t shy away from connecting with those who are different from you—new perspectives can be refreshing and help you grow.

Go Solo—Sometimes
Challenge yourself to attend events alone. It might feel intimidating at first, but some settings—like an OUAB movie night or a group fitness class—can be easier to navigate solo than, say, dining alone at Sloopy’s. You might be surprised how often someone strikes up a conversation with you.

Online Community Counts Too
While face-to-face interaction is often seen as the norm, it’s okay if you feel more comfortable connecting online. Digital spaces can offer real, meaningful friendships and support—especially if in-person socializing feels overwhelming.

Redefine What Community Means
Your support system doesn’t have to look like a sitcom friend group. Maybe your sibling is your best friend, or your study group is your social circle. Even your dog can be a source of comfort and connection. Community comes in many forms.

Try Group Therapy
Group therapy can be a powerful way to connect with other students, share experiences, and practice social skills in a safe, supportive environment. It’s not just about mental health—it’s also about building relationships.

Talk About It
Loneliness is common, but that doesn’t mean it should be ignored. Talking to a counselor can help you process your feelings, explore strategies for connection, and feel more supported.

Final Thought
Loneliness doesn’t mean you’re doing college wrong. It means you’re human. Connection takes time, effort, and a little courage—but it’s possible. You’re not alone in feeling lonely, and you don’t have to stay that way.

 

Counseling and Consultation Service
Office of Student Life